The Ideal Girlfriend List

A friend in his late 30s complained to me about his persistent bachelorhood.

• About how he cannot find a girl he likes... 
• About how all his last girlfriend wanted was to go cheonging and for him to tag along in his BMW. 
• About how he likes girlish girls like Kim Yuna, Rebecca Lim etc.

This is a typical story. I've heard it many times from different guys. Sometimes from bachelors, other times from married men in their 30s.

I think the problem is all with how these men are in love with the idea of THE IDEAL GIRLFRIEND. And regardless of age, these men still hang onto their hopes of securing that ideal girlfriend someday.

So, who is the ideal girlfriend? Typically, she:

1. is chio (alluding to a slim symmetrical oval-shaped face with East-Asian features)
2. has a slim body, with equally slender limbs.
3. has those perky 'handful' boobs
4. has long hair
5. has clear skin
6. has a sweet smile (alluding to 'good character', coz bad people don't have sweet smiles.)
7. is shorter than the guy
8. is equally or less educated as/than he is
9. makes less money than he does
10. has a pleasant disposition, but doesn't talk non-stop
11. is always willing to give him 'boy time'.
12. likes to have sex

In all likelihood, she probably looks like this:

Well, it's a popular list... the end product is not bad either. However, we are making a huge assumption here, i.e.

Is What You See 
Really What You Get?

#1 - #7 are highly visible. These are used as convenient and immediate 'Pass/Fail' criteria. All, except #7, can be surgically enhanced or created.

#6: Sweet smile is hardly a good proxy for 'good person', or any of those happy endings we so very much like to own.
But hey... We are afterall all too human... That's why advertisements with sweet-smilers sell so much shite to us.

#8 - #9 are more or less 'facts', which can be established by the guy through his network or after a couple of conversations.

#10 - #12 are what I call the 'delayed deal-breakers' which usually crop up much later into the transaction. Detecting the authenticity of these factors takes time, especially when they can be easily faked and/or put on with more gusto and more closely to ideal during the initial period.

Lastly, most of these guys don't seem to be able or want to understand that even if they'd managed to secure a genuine 'ideal girlfriend', it takes a lot of work to sustain the relationship.

And when the list/ ideals break down, what happens?
It's heart-break time.

It's time to gripe to Blinkymummy, or thrash females with your buds at a pub or online.

Seriously? Using the Ideal Girlfriend list to look for a Life Partner is simply a disaster waiting to happen. Unfortunately, many can't tell the reason why.